My husband and I met in Oct. or 1998 I had just split from my ex , and he was seperated from his Wife of 10 years. I had one child Jessica .. she was 1 at the time , Ryan had 4 children , I didnt meet the children untill after Ryan and I married in March of 1999 , I was instantly in love with each of his children all were bright intelligent children I also met their Mother.. Tina she was of course very careing about her children and unsure of me .. i was 18 and not very religous Tina and her children as very great in their faith and I respect that. I was not impressed with her new husband , I wasnt sure why something about his eyes.. i always look at a persons eye and just something told me he wasnt a good guy, Not the way he put on to others any how .. I have often in the last 7 years told Ryan that i wouldnt be shocked if he wasnt completely controlling her and all. When we moved to Idaho in Oct. 2000 little did we know it would be the last we seen my step children .. Tina had sent us a letter asking Ryan to sign over rights to the kids and allow Tim her new husband to adopt them so that they could all be on his health insurance and things like that , but she said that Ryan would be able to keep all contact with the kids, visit , write and call .. Ryan agreed feeling he was doing what was Finacialy best for the kids. We spoke to them 1 time after that on the phone , we wrote 3 or 4 times but never heard back. Tina had kept in touch with Ryans mom sending pictures and letters ect and thats how we kept up on how they were doing.Untill Mid 2006 when all contact with anyone stopped..
We had always planned to contact Rich my oldest Step son when he was 18 and we felt it would be his choice then if he wanted to talk.. that was untill last night when i did a search for him on myspace and he came up right away i knew it was him he hasnt changed a bit as some may have noticed by a previous entry last night i struggled with if i should message him and tell him who i was , I worried what if his mom and stand got mad , what if he never wants to speaks us , what if he thinks we just didnt want them ..
In the end I sent the message and when i seen a responce from him i fell apart in tears ... this was his reponce

From: Rich Date: Sep 25, 2007 8:59 PM
um, hey, i dont really know what to say. Ive been looking for you guys too, though. Last i heard yall were in Boise. I was in Boise just this past weekend running a race for cross-country. I looked up the millers. I found three numbers that might have been yall. Im not sure. I never got through to anyone. How have yall been? I guess my father doesnt have a myspace? Ive been searching for him for a long time.

We did a lot of catching up , and i had asked him how they all ended up in Utah because last we had heard they were in Texas , I was in no way prepared for his responce to this.


From: Rich
Date: Sep 25, 2007 9:31 PM

yeah, um, a lot has happened since then. My mom passed away in december. actually, she was murdered. by my step dad. we moved to live with my moms parents in Louisiana then. This past summer we all moved here to just get away from everything. weve been meaning to write grandma about it, but weve been really busy and everything.

I was floored never could I have thought this could or would be something to happen in my close personal world , I knew i didnt like the man but this .. this is mind blowing.I did a google search for Tinas murder.. and what I now know was a horrific act .Here is what happened. Rich and his oldest sister had left for school early Wens. Morning Dec. 13th 2006 - Sarah , Lydia and the youngest baby were getting ready to go, When Tina heard either Sarah or Lydia (im assuming Sarah but its not confirmed) cry out, Tina went in to see what was wrong and that is I assume when she found the Tim either had , or was attempted to rape the girl , Tim then used Duct tape to tie all the girls up and then told them he Had to kill their mother, All three girls report that they heard thier mother and stepfather/father fighting in their room - Tina was screaming for Rich to help her ( Rich had already left the house) Tim strangled her to death , he then called some friends and his father to tell them he had acidently killed his wife and had taken enough medication to end his own life before leaveing the house.

I can not put into word how i feel on this , I have reported many cases of abuse here on mindsay but nothing has prepared me for this , this is children who i feel are my own who i love as my own , My husband was married to this amazing woman for 10 years. I am still in shock and shit have no words to expess my sadness.
I am adding a few reports and links to the reports here.....

Dec 14th 2006 -

"But Rich (Tina's 16-year-old son) said his mother was looking forward to it and that she would still be there." He said, "She'll love it. I'll sing with her,"


                                                                      Dec 17th 2006 -

Here is the arrest warrant signed by Tigner-Thompson:

"On 12-13-06, Det. (Scott) Weems was called to 1730 Sheffield in reference to a possible homicide. Upon arrival, detectives and officers discovered that a white female, later identified as Tina Marie Eubanks was lying in her bed deceased. Detectives determined that there were signs of foul play. Detectives also learned that the suspect, Timothy Thomas Eubanks had called several people and advised them that his wife was dead and that he was going to kill himself. Detectives also learned that Tim Eubanks had called his father, Thomas Eubanks, and advised him that he had accidentally killed his wife and had taken a lot of stuff to end his life. Detectives also learned from the three minor children in the house that their stepfather had tied them up with duct tape and told them he was leaving. Detectives learned that (a child) was sexually molested that morning and that she made an outcry. Detectives learned that the three girls heard their mother and stepfather fighting in the bedroom and that their mother was yelling for (her son) to come help her. (The son) was already out of the house at that time. The three girls heard their stepfather make a statement that he had to do this to (their) mother. Detectives discovered what appeared to be petechial hemorrhaging in the eyes and scratch markings around the neck area. Upon arrival to the residence, the suspect was gone."

The affidavit also indicates that police believed Tim Eubanks caused the death of his wife by "possible strangulation or by unknown means."

 

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I keep laying here stareing at my screen hopeing she will message me , even just a hi .. something but truth is im not sure shes capleable of that at this point in our last 2 almost 3 yrs of best friendship never do i feel so far away as i do when this illness is in full blown attack it steals her , hides her traps her some where no one cam go with her.
Its been such a long day and even longer for her . is started the night before .. horrible thoughts in her mind that wouldnt go away such horrible thoughts that she begged me to make them stop .. but i couldnt i didnt/dont know how.. how can i help take something away that i cant see..
She stayed with me as long as she could i begged her to stay longer every minute she was with me talking she was safe , it was one more minute closer to morning when her husband could be here for her to help her.. in the end it was to much to much suffering and torture for her she slammed her head agaisnt the wall over and over again untill she knocked her own self unconsious , it was a blessing that her husband heard the bangs and was able to go be with her , she wasnt very talkative after that close to catatonic, later that night the voices came back again  i was able to talk to her for a minute before she was gone and the illness had full control , i asked her what they said to her
" i hate you"
"your worthless"
"laughter"
"if you dont kill her we will"
all were angry with her all ther just to torment her and all i could do was promise to be here ... across the fucking atlantic.. i cant help but i want to , i want to make this stop, to make it go away its like some evil thing comes and steals her and it selfish that all i can think i "why .. why MY best friend" her husband was with her all that night though for him it was even harder he spent a good part of the night restraining her so she couldnt harm herself , he called her sister down to help so that they could be there with her to keep her safe from what ever decides to torment her next, and what did happen next even i couldnt have guessed.
She came to me and i told her i was her and thats when she told me she had heard her daughters talking to her, crying for her they needed her , she needed to go comfort them ...
but her daughters have been passed for 5 years..
My heart sank .. i told her with wasnt them .. why does she think its them
she only said "of course its them, why wouldnt it be them"
i asked her if she knew her babies where in heaven and the angels would take care of them and she said "theres no heaven no angels" i need to go to them"
i wanted to be strong and tell her that her babies were gone but i know the raw pain and emotion behinde that and i couldnt do it , i only promised i was here and that i needed her here with me , i asked her how i could help her and she just said , tell me how to get to them ... again tears filled me .. i couldnt tell her that wasnt going to tell her that i told her i wanted her to be with me and she said i could be she had to go with them, then she again said tell me how to get to them ,and i told her if i knew i would tell her but i didnt know .. i wanted to help but i couldnt ..
she sister went to her and tried to tell her calmly that the babies were gone , and at first it didnt phase her, but when the reality hit her she was even more determined to go and this led to another 2 hours of restrainning her to keep her safe.
Her husband myself , her sister we are all more scare now then ever before my best friend is further away then ever before .
I want to know how any just god creates such an illness that would use the loss of child agisnt someone., it seems to feed on everything that means the most to her and that in itself is killing her .why is this happening.. she hasnt been bad , she hasnt hurt anyone , shes not some drugged out junkie , she is just a mom and a wife and a best friend and this thing is trying to take over and it cant happen, it isnt fair.. we need her here we need her well , and we just want to make this go  away

I feel so useless right now , my best friend is suffering more then i can even begin to imagen and there is no way for me to make it better for her , other then just being here . and I know to her that means more then anything but i wish i knew how to do more , how make it all go away , this illness is something no one has answers to , and now the hardest thing ever, her angels crying for her , calling to her that they need her I dont know what to say or how to help ease this , she wants me to help her get to them and I cant there is just no way for me to , i hate this i want to fight something i cant see , i want to hug her untilli cant hug her anymore and she cant cry any more i just want her pain and torment to go away , i feel alone in that i dont know of anyone else whos friend has this , Nicky and Kaylee do support me and are so amazing at letting me know shes ok and all but i want to help them to but without answer how can I all i can do is be here and ocean away I love her so much i just want to make it ok ....

I am new here to the site , im leaveing my old blogging site behinde for various reasons i just do not feel it is the right place for me anymore. Maybe  this will be better i hope. I am sure i have a lot more to say when i can get to it and its quiet around here , I am a mom to 3 children who live here so it can be hard to think sometimes.